
In many wellness and therapeutic spaces, we’re often told what to feel, how to move, or what healing should look like. But for many people—especially those recovering from trauma or nervous system dysregulation—this kind of direction can feel overwhelming, even re-traumatizing.
That’s where the non-directive approach to somatic therapy comes in.
It’s slower. Deeply respectful.
And it begins with a simple belief:
Your body already knows.
What Does “Non-Directive” Mean?
In traditional or more directive therapy, the practitioner might lead the process by suggesting specific techniques, postures, breathing patterns, or emotional releases. While this can be helpful in certain contexts, it can also unintentionally override the your sense of agency (that you can change the way your body feels) or safety—especially if you feel you “should” go along, even when it doesn’t feel right.
A non-directive somatic approach flips that script. Instead of guiding or pushing, the practitioner creates space for your experience.
This means:
- You’re not told how to feel something.
- You’re not rushed to “release” or “fix” anything.
- You’re never pressured to go deeper than what feels right.
You are always asked, never told. Your body is the guide.
Why Non-Coercion Is Essential in Somatic Work
For many people, trauma involves a loss of choice: being told what to do, being touched without consent, or being stuck in situations that felt unsafe. These experiences don’t just live in memory—they live in the body. The nervous system remembers what it feels like to have no say.
So when therapy—even somatic therapy—is overly directive or structured, it can unintentionally recreate that same dynamic. It might feel subtle, but it can still land as pressure or even threat.
Non-coercive work means:
- You can pause, shift, or say no at any time
- Nothing is expected or required of you
- Your boundaries are honored as they arise
This isn’t about avoiding challenge—it’s about creating the conditions where you can be met with support. When choice and voice are present, the body can begin to feel what safety really is—not as a concept, but as a lived experience.
What If I Just Want to Be Told What to Do?
This is a completely valid feeling. In fact, it’s an incredibly important one. Wanting to be told what to do is often an intelligent survival strategy—especially for those who have lived through trauma, codependency, or environments where autonomy wasn’t safe.
In these situations, giving away choice can feel like:
- Relief from internal pressure
- A way to avoid judgment or failure
- A way to stay safe in relationships or systems that punished dissent
While this strategy may have protected you in the past, it can also keep you from reconnecting with your own wisdom. This approach gently rebuilds your muscle of choice-making — without force.
It helps you move from external authority to internal guidance, without judgment or pressure. Over time, your body learns: It’s safe to choose. It’s safe to listen to myself. I can trust what I feel.
This is what makes this so powerful:
It doesn’t push you to be “independent” or figure it all out.
It helps you rediscover that your choices matter—and always have.
What Changes – When You Stop Trying to Change
With this approach the focus is less on fixing a symptom or reaching a specific outcome—and more on simply being with what’s here, just as it is, in a supportive and relational way. There’s no pushing, no pressure to get somewhere else. The body isn’t treated like a problem to solve, but like a part of us that longs to be heard.
Because healing doesn’t come from force. It doesn’t come from trying harder, or from overriding what we feel. Healing comes from listening. From allowing. From the present moment. When we stop trying to fix and instead offer deep permission to just be, something begins to shift. And the body starts to unwind—not on demand, but in its own time, in its own way.
This gentle approach invites trust. Trust that you don’t have to force change for change to happen. It’s in this spaciousness—in the absence of pressure, in the presence of connection—that real healing begins to take root.
You’re Not Being Led—You’re Being Accompanied
Something powerful happens when the practitioner walks beside you- not an expert who takes the lead.
You can begin to feel a sense of trust in yourself. You can notice what’s happening in your body and realize you have options. You can begin to understand that what you feel matters, and you get to decide what’s right for you in each moment.
Over time, this builds a steady kind of confidence. You can also experience what it’s like to feel safe in relationship—not just because someone says it’s safe, but because it actually feels that way. You are met with patience and respect. There’s room for you to be exactly as you are, without pressure or expectation.
This is the foundation for embodied healing.
Healing that begins from within. Healing that doesn’t rely on someone else having the answers, but grows as you listen to their own body and follows what feels supportive.
And it all begins when the client is given space to take the lead.
Healing in Relationship
This work isn’t something that you do alone. It’s something that unfolds between two people—together. When the practitioner is also attuned to their own body—pausing, noticing, breathing—they’re quietly saying: “I’m here with you. I’m listening to my own body too.”
This shared presence creates a different kind of safety. It’s not about one person fixing another.
It’s about two nervous systems learning how to be with what’s real—side by side, moment by moment. When the practitioner stays connected to their own somatic experience, it opens the door for you to do the same. Without words, it communicates: “You don’t have to do this alone.”
In this kind of relationship, healing becomes less of a task and more of a natural unfolding. A gentle return to connection—within, and between.
Something to Carry With You
A non-directive somatic approach isn’t about doing less. It’s about doing what’s most aligned with how healing really happens: through relationship, choice, and presence.
It’s not about a practitioner “healing” you. It’s about you returning to your own body, your own timing, and your own truth—with someone by your side who truly honors that.
Your body already knows.
Sometimes, it just needs the space to speak.
Wishing you wellness,
Keri Sawyer
PS – The next blog will be about how to bring non-directive approaches specifically into yoga spaces and what that looks like – Stay tuned!










